Perspective by Paul Chen -Husband

 

The passing away of my beloved wife Jennie means the forever loss of a loving partner who truly cared about me. Jennie was such an even-tempered person. As far as I can recall in our 36 years’ marriage, she never raised her voice once even we had disagreements. If I had some physical discomfort, be it a minor cold or skin rash, she always rushed to my aid and gave her well knowledgeable medical advice to ease my pain. Jennie paid the attention to everything she dealt with in great details. I relied on her for paying the bills on time, balancing the checkbook, giving me driving directions and making traveling arrangements. I depended on her so much. 

Often times, when I drove alone, I lost my sense of direction. This is exactly the state of mind I’m currently in sometimes. She may be gone, but her presence is being felt constantly in my memory. However, it is so difficult to accept the fact that she is on longer physically with me in my day-to-day activities. I now truly understand an old Chinese saying "The saddest thing in one’s life when you’re getting old is losing your life-time and caring partner (spouse)".